No matter how many times I tell Mtuseni that some of his blog posts — part of his monthly allowance tasks — can be short and simple, he always goes for long treatises on issues that are important to him. He doesn’t deal in trivialities. I once mentioned something I saw in People magazine (at the dentist’s office!) and he said “that’s just full of garbage.” I got served! Mtuseni is a “big ideas” guy; a lot of thoughts go through that head of his. It’s one of the reasons I love him.
September is going to be a full month for Mtuseni. He turns 20 in a couple of weeks. He usually downplays birthdays, but he’s already mentioned it twice. Mtuseni is pretty sentimental and takes transitions to heart. He says that leaving his teens makes him “old.” I’ll admit, sometimes I miss that little, naive kid from a few years ago. And just a week after his birthday is the first anniversary of his older brother’s death, which surely won’t be an easy time.
Perhaps that explains his recent musings on parents, shared from his blog below. Be sure to click through to his full post, and give him a pat on the back.
In today’s world it is easy to lose parents in different ways. As people who follow my blog know, I talk about things that directly or indirectly affect me.
It’s not easy to lose a parent through death, and it’s no easier to lose parents through being disowned. But there is something common about the two and that is the lack of parental love. Parental love is the atmosphere that revolves around the family: the respect, happiness, and advice you get from your parents.
Money can make you forget you lost parents but it cannot fulfill the area of parental love. If you grow up without a parent it becomes very difficult to raise your own children because you were not taught by your mother how to nurture a child, and you didn’t get advice from your father on how to unconditionally love your child. It is very important to be surrounded by either a mother or a father or hopefully both, but it’s really challenging as a girl not to have a mother or as a boy not to have a father.
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